Many people are losing out on time with family members during the pandemic, but this isolating reality has been particularly hard-hitting on the elderly. They are unable to see their grandchildren, youthful chess companions, or book club members who offer a sense of community.
Children, teens, and young adults are losing out too. They don’t get to converse or bake with their grandparents or elderly loved ones.
Reading is one of the fundamental pillars of human connection. It allows people across generations to relate to each other and discuss characters or themes that pertain to their own lives. Literature is a staircase into another world, and it is possible for two generations to scale those stairs together, forming a bond that can benefit both parties.
Young people and older relatives who live in the same household can read together in-person. For those who live apart, technology exists to connect with family members worldwide via FaceTime or Zoom, and this bonding can be furthered through reading.
What are the benefits of forming an intergenerational bond?
Relationships offer mutual benefits we might not consider. Intergenerational bonds reward both young and old people because they can learn from each other (stringing together the past and future). Reading together brings out the inquisitive and social sides to of everyone, but there are individual benefits as well.
For elder generations, reading together:
- Prevents loneliness.
- Keeps them updated on current trends.
- Allows them to share their own stories and pass on lessons.
For children, teens, and young adults, reading together:
- Builds respect for older generations.
- Fosters communication skills and cultural awareness.
- Forms a strong imagination.
- Cultivates a flexible personality.
Grandparents/elders reading with young children
Children and grandparents can build many fond memories reading together, whether it’s five minutes a day or two hours per week. Children can share their dreams for the future by recognizing themselves in books, and grandparents can encourage them to pursue their interests. This also intensifies a child’s sense of family belonging and reinforces the place a grandparent has in it.
Here are some tips to make efficient use of reading time:
- If reading together remotely, record yourself reading aloud for a change of pace from
- FaceTime or Zoom.
- Allow children to pick a book. It shows that you trust their opinion, no matter how many times you reread the same book.
- Keep a stockpile of genres handy so there are lots of options.
- Ask each other questions about the book.
- Make sound effects while reading.
- Give books as presents.
- Take turns reading aloud.
Grandparents/elders reading with teens, college students, and health workers
A book club is one of the best ways to engage in a cross-generational gathering.
A book discussion group can be anywhere with anyone: over an online platform, on a patio, in a church basement, at an assisted living facility, or in any community space where people who love literature can come together.
The best way to facilitate a book discussion is to keep the group under ten people with an equal number from older and younger generations. Participants should be excited and willing!
Pick books that feature friendship amid a generational gap, use icebreakers during the first meeting, have a set of rules and expectations to build structure, make accommodations for anyone who is hard of hearing or visually impaired, and if online, ensure that everyone is able access the platform and feel comfortable in this environment.
Group discussions can be quite rewarding. Other enriching elements are friendships formed outside of a club and creative, book-related group activities.
However you choose to read together, be authentic and let the book be a guide toward connection. There is power in shared experience.